Interactions with a book -page 6

Today, I bring Dr. James Dobson’s book “Love must be tough” to an end.

It was a very insightful book that taught me to be principled and firm when it comes to love. It doesn’t mean being mean and cold, but having boundaries that are clearly communicated, boundaries that when crossed the consequences must be applied firmly in order to maintain self respect.

I have also learnt that rushing a relationship into intimacy (kissing and sex on the first date for instance ) without taking time to create shared memories and bond in non-sexual ways is destructive. The author reiterated the wisdom and rewards of taking things slowly and allowing the relationship to grow organically.

I love this book and certainly recommend it for couples.

Next week, I will introduce to you the new book I will be reading for the next couple of weeks.

I end with a few quotes from the book:

-A good marriage is one in which the dominant needs are met within the relationship, but where each spouse develops individual identity, interests, and friendships. This may be the most delicate tightrope act in marriage.
Extreme independence is as destructive to a relationship as total dependence.

-Verbal bludgeoning never made anyone more loving or sensitive. You simply can’t tear a guy to pieces and then expect him to meet your emotional needs. He’s not made that way. Rather than attacking an unresponsive man and driving him away, there is a method of drawing him in your direction. It is accomplished by taking the pressure off him—by pulling backward a bit—by avoiding the worn-out accusations and complaints—by appearing to need him less—by showing appreciation for
what he does right and for being fun to be with. Happiness is a marvelous magnet to the human personality.