Diary of a Wanderer

The new book I’m currently reading is “Love must be tough -New Hope for marriages in crisis” by Dr. James Dobson.

The quotations below from his book summarizes what I have read so far (I’m on page 35) :

~”If marriage is to last a lifetime, then it must not accumulate and preserve resentments that can eventually turn into hatred.”

~”The inability to talk to one another is a symptom of a deeper problem, but it is not the cause itself. The critical element is the way one spouse begins to perceive the other and their lives together. It is a subtle thing at first, often occurring without either partner being aware of the slippage. But as time passes, one individual begins to feel trapped.”

~”This intense desire to escape from a marriage can occur on the first day of the honeymoon or fifty years thereafter.”

~”Regardless of what common sense tells us to the contrary, Partner A’s best chance of attracting and holding a suffocating lover is to pull backward slightly, conveying freedom for Partner B and respect for herself in the process. Curiously, Partner B often moves toward Partner A when this occurs.”

Very insightful ideas from his book. I love old books and old movies and old songs (though I enjoy current ones too). But personally, I think old books are rich with deep, unique perspectives. Old movies have storylines that are sometimes hard to predict and are highly suspenseful. And some old songs are made with a lot of devotion, attention, practice and skill, and every lyric and beat vibrates and echoes with mastery and a delicious soothing effect.

Stay tuned for the continuation of the highlights from Dr. Dobson’s book…