I sat on my bed watching from my laptop on a bedside table, occasionally worried if the volume disturbed my neighbors who lived next room.

Something was on my mind : will these people be advocating for fidelity in relationships if theirs were so thorny with complications that they couldn’t wait to be out of them?

I continued listening to the podcast. Both host and guest talked about how sticking to one partner made one advance in life. The host said there was even a study that proved it.

Maybe they have had relationships that turned sour by either their deeds or those of their past partners and they have come to those conclusions -that good relationships had great potential in transforming an individual positively, especially their finances.

I reflected on what they were saying…

Sometimes, it’s difficult to see far ahead. What makes people genuinely interested in each other suddely turn into sworn enemies or sellouts who betray trust? Is it something beyond their control or it’s a question of discipline ?

One thing is certain : growth takes time. And the interval between one level of growth and another may be filled with hurting a number of people or stepping on certain toes inadvertently.

Learning to ride a bike takes falling and rising many times before mastering balance. And almost every aspect of life isn’t any different.

One thing I’ve resolved to do is never claim to be a master in anything. Take for instance, claiming to be a relationship expert. It puts you on some pedestal where everywhere sort of expects perfection from you. But you and I know that even the experts have problems too, sometimes even worse problems than those of their clients.

I see myself as knowing nothing, but willing to learn from anyone who claims to know. A little advice from here, another insight from there, and behold a life that gets solidly tailored into beauty.